Clifford

 

My name is Clifford, a 55-year-old from Durban, South Africa, living life unapologetically on my own terms. Growing up, I was drawn to creativity and the call of the ocean, but I followed a practical path, studying civil engineering at Durban University of Technology and earning my National Higher Diploma. The classroom never felt like home—I belonged in art studios or chasing waves with my surfboard. So, I let my hair grow long, embraced my free spirit, and set out to explore the world.

For 16 years, I traveled, soaking up new cultures and experiences. Along the way, I met my incredible wife, and we settled in Edinburgh, where we welcomed our first son. I worked in major merchant banks, installing data cabling, all while sporting my signature long hair—later transformed into dreadlocks. Those dreads weren’t just a hairstyle; they were a statement. They sparked conversations, broke down stereotypes, and opened unexpected doors. People saw me as different, but that difference built bridges, not walls.

Eventually, my family and I moved to New Zealand to join my parents, sister, and brother-in-law. I took on project management for data cabling at Auckland Airport, but my heart remained with the sea. Surfing, fishing, and strolling the beach with my dogs keep me grounded. My second son was born here, completing our family and making life feel whole.

Back in school, strict rules demanded short hair—above the ears, not touching the collar—or we’d face punishment. The moment I left, I vowed to let my hair grow, and I’ve kept it long since I was 18. At 30, craving a change, I switched to dreadlocks, fully embracing who I am. In the corporate world, my look stood out, but it taught me a powerful lesson: it’s not about how you look, but how you carry yourself. Some assume long hair or dreads mean you’re a hippie or tied to certain lifestyles. I’ve proved those stereotypes wrong. I’m just Clifford—authentic, hardworking, and true to myself.

I owe so much to my parents, who instilled values that kept me grounded through life’s highs, lows, and wild adventures. Their guidance helped me stay true, no matter where the journey took me. My advice? Embrace who you are, stay positive, and trust life to unfold. The right path always finds you.

Live your truth. Ride your wave.